I was looking back at all my articles recently. After pursuing for a while, I stumbled upon my goals for 2020. I wrote out and posted those goals because I wanted outward accountability. With the pandemic and more surgeries than I expected, I forgot what I wanted out of 2020. When I wrote that article, I hadn’t even heard of covid-19. So let us look back together and talk about what I wanted vs. what I did.
The goals I set for my personal life were as follows:
-Start dating again
I’m happy to say I followed through with this. It hasn’t been the journey I expected but it’s definitely been very interesting. It’s taught me a lot about who I am and what I want. It’s also taught me a lot about what I deserve and shouldn’t put up with.
–Make new friends
I can’t say that I’ve met a lot of new friends. The pandemic has been a huge hindrance in that regard. I have however, reached out to old friends and got significantly closer. I facetime my friends at least weekly. I’ve strengthened bonds and become more vulnerable. I’ve made a lot of intentional choices to reach out when struggling. I’m really proud of that.
-Start writing more
I probably have not written as much as I intended too. I think I set my sights a little high for that. That being said, I did write the first draft of my senior project. It is at the moment almost ten pages and a one woman show. I also have continued journaling when I feel moved to. Not what I intended but definitely progress.
The goals I set for my mental health were as follows:
-Continue treatment for my OCD
I have continued my treatment of OCD. I’m happy to report that it is night and day from where it was. I still struggle with it on a daily basis but I can let intrusive thoughts go readily. I can also recognize compulsions and obsessions when they start. This reduces the amount of time I dedicate to OCD significantly.
-Become more vulnerable
Like I mentioned, I have made intentional decisions to be more open and real with my friends. This is huge for me. I have opened up about a lot. Along with this, I have been more open here with you all. I’m really grateful to have this space to share my experiences with you.
-Write what I’m grateful for 365 days of the year both morning and night
I didn’t make the 365 days that I wanted too. I think that is okay. I have been intentional about writing gratitude. It may not be a full year but I started the year with this practice and I am finishing with the practice. I can only ask for another year of gratitude as well.
The goals I set for my physical health were as follows:
-Run a half marathon or 5K
I did run a 5K. With all of my surgeries and covid, I didn’t even come close to a half marathon but that’s okay. We will try again next year! I am proud that I was able to run a 5K and continue my training.
-Fuel my body with nutritious food
I have stuck with being vegan. It makes my body feel significantly better than it used to. I do manage to eat very healthy which fuels my body. I do have a good splurge now and then but I think that is healthy too.
-Treat my body with respect and kindness
I have continually treated my body with respect and kindness. It doesn’t always look perfect. However, I always do my best. I put an emphasis on loving myself exactly where I am that day and that’s enough.
I’m really proud of the progress I’ve made in 2020. The changes I’ve made have put me in a completely different place in my life. I am extremely happy to say that despite covid-19, 2020 has been one of my best years yet. I am proud of myself everyday and that’s no small thing. I strive to work hard and push my comfort zone. I can’t wait to see what 2021 brings!